CONFUSED.COM

So, around July last year, an interesting thing happened – John and I had a deep and meaningful conversation which ended positively. I am as shocked as anyone. I had spent the week being pretty pissed off with him – he hadn’t spoken to or seen the children for the whole week. I sent him […]

Stuck

I can look back now and say yes, it was emotional abuse. It was a term I didn’t know all those years ago and not something I ever considered. He wasn’t hitting me so it was fine – I had to suck it up and carry on. My self-esteem virtually disappeared. I was nothing special. […]

Merry Christmas

It was 2007 and two days before Christmas. I was at my Mum’s with my daughter. It was a Sunday and John had gone to church. He randomly called me and asked if I wanted to be picked up. Surprised, I said yes and he said he’d be there in twenty minutes. When we got […]

Sex, Anyone?

I knew John was regularly telling people I was frigid and didn’t like sex. He even organised an awkward trip with one of his female friends to visit Ann Summers – I kid you not. She was very nice about it, but it was one of the most embarrassing, humiliating times of my life. My […]

Babies, Buses, Buggies and Delays: Part 2

As I became more confident, I went out more with Little Miss. The only problem was public transport and buggies do not make for a pleasurable experience. I relied on John to drive us to the supermarket – “We went shopping last week! What do you need now?!” I couldn’t rely on him to drive […]

Babies, Buses, Buggies and Delays: Part 1

I had failed my driving test twice – once before we got married and once soon after. It was just me though, so it wasn’t a big deal getting on public transport – it was what I’d always done. If we were going somewhere together, then he – let’s call him John – would generally […]